So I find myself asking other moms this question with great frequency.
“Are you done? Having kids, I mean?”
It’s no secret to any of my friends that I would love another. But there’s my age. (I’ll turn 40 in February.) And the little matter of money. Due to the newspaper biz’s tough times, neither Hubs nor I have gotten a raise for two years. And we remain on mandatory furlough, which translates to a 5-percent pay cut for each of us.
(Note to bosses: You are destroying my third-baby dreams. As punishment, I am going to spare myself the rising costs of daycare and send my offspring to your homes each day for safekeeping. I feel certain that after a few weeks of experiencing their buoyant {cough} high-spirited {cough} delightful {hack} behavior, you will find the money needed to address my daycare tuition needs.)
Still, I can’t seem to squash my baby fever. It doesn’t help that I keep seeing adorable baby pics posted by Kim over at Whirligiggles and Yavonda of Baby and the Beasts. I see those cooing little bundles, and … {sigh}
I figure a little recollecting of my epic yet non-epi labor might serve as a temporary deterrent. (Btw, when doctors says it’s “too late” for an epidural, they LIE. I got one at 9 1/2 cm because the on-call doctor thought it would “relax” me and help the baby turn. Also, he was secretly hoping for a C-section because, as he whined at one point, “I’ve been here all day.” Had I not been in gut-wrenching pain, I would have risen from the bed like a mighty Fury and throttled him. Jerk.
Anyway. Back to recollecting:
You’ll note the odd presence of a trick-or-treating Jack-‘o’Lantern in this photo. After the doula warned Hubs that I might get nauseated on the way to the hospital, he thrust this pumpkin at me after I heaved myself into the truck. Until that point, I had felt nary a twinge of nausea. Behold, the power of suggestion:
Once at the hospital, my doula kept me moving. As I rocked, I noticed that the Enya CD kept repeating one song, which was really annoying, but I was in too much agony to mention it to anyone.
Hubs didn’t notice the looping Enya track. Because by this point, having been up with me all night while I labored at home, he was snoring in the corner. I knew getting a doula was a good move on my part. Because of her, I was not consumed with hatred. Nor was I tempted to have him rolled off to the male snippy-snippy room while I finished the difficult task of delivering our precious child.
Hubs managed to rouse himself eventually, and by the time I was ready for the hard part, he was downright peppy. Ugh.
I will spare you the next several photos. I’m not a modest person, but the lady bits weren’t at their best at that moment.
Project Baby Deterrent: FAIL.
Oh yes, I’m right there with you! I so badly want to have another baby … I just can’t leave Ava alone to deal with me when I’m old and crazy 🙂
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It is never too late. A good mom is a good mom (age does not matter)!
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Yes, I so long for a 2nd baby. Mallory asks all the time for a sibling. I find borrowing someones elses helps with the urge. You get to play with them and give them back. It is nice like that. But i still would like another one. They are so sweet and precious and special:)
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Great Story and photos Cathy! Go for it – you are not too old.
I told me super easy labor story and I am asking fellow bloggers to share also.
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